Seeking approval from another person can be the biggest waste of your time
And seeking love from another person can also be the biggest waste of your time. Because love has always been inside you. All you've got to do is get rid of the mental viruses, called disapproval, and you'll be loving all the time. If your happiness depends on someone else, all they have to do is pull the rug out from under you and you're miserable. If your happiness comes from you, it's solid, you know where happiness lies. The only one that can make you happy is you and the only one that can make you unhappy is you. Once you know that, the problem of relationships is all over. You'll never have a miserable relationship ever again. Because love is inside you. When you're loving, all problems disappear. Everything is perfect the way it is. Love, love, love, and you can't miss. Remember, you're just love.
From the teachings of Lester Levenson